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Nov 16, 2022 · You shouldn't assume your partner will change in order for the relationship to work out. Accepting them and loving who they are is important because their behavior probably won't be changing significantly anytime soon—if ever.
- Kira Asatryan
- Understand what's causing the lack of change. Behavioral patterns are very rarely end-games in and of themselves. There’s usually something deeper sparking the drive to act in the same way over and over again.
- Restate twice, then give advice. Advice generally doesn't work towards changing someone else's behavior, for a number of reasons. It often comes across sounding judgmental or critical – spurring the other person to dig her heels into her current behavior.
- Model the behaviors you'd like to see. Advice tends to be our go-to method for helping someone act differently, but there’s a much more effective way to inspire change.
- Set boundaries. Accepting a partner’s destructive behaviors is not always the most caring thing you can do. If his behaviors are truly damaging to himself – or endangering you – it’s time to set some firm boundaries.
Apr 10, 2017 · Here are four things you can do instead of trying to change your partner that can change your relationship for the better. 1. Be a better partner Many people stay in bad relationships with the desire to change their partner. In Marriage Rules, Dr. Harriet Lerner writes, “If you don’t change your part in a stuck pattern, no change will occur ...
Apr 25, 2023 · If there's something you wish your partner would change, think carefully about why it's important to you. Rather than complaining to your partner, let them know what your experience is.
Mar 8, 2022 · Key points. Sometimes the best way to get what you want is to ask for it—clearly, directly, kindly. Even better is to demonstrate what you want a partner to do. When asking doesn't work,...
Here is a 7-step process to create change in your partner. The key to the success of this process is that it makes your partner want to change – instead of feeling coerced. Why? Because your gain will not feel like their loss. Here's what you do. 1. MAKE A LIST of the top three behaviors your partner does that annoy you. For example, leaves ...
Dec 5, 2017 · Andrew Zaeh for Bustle. It can be extremely helpful to have an ally when you’re looking to make a change. Even if it’s a big change, it’s OK to try to change your partner if they want...
