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- Overview
- 5 Reasons Why You Can’t Let Go of Resentment
- How Resentment Impacts Your Well-Being
- Is the Goal Really to Feel No Resentment At All?
- Strategies to Help You Begin Letting Go of Resentment
Whether a conscious act or unintentional, being hurt by someone else often has a lasting impact on us. It ignites a flurry of emotions—anger, sadness, frustration, confusion, and indignation—floods our minds, and can leave us with a lingering sense of deep injustice. For some, these feelings can swirl and fester in our minds, leading to ongoing resentment toward the situation or the offender.
“With resentment, we often hold ill will toward someone or something that is the cause of the past injustices—real or perceived—and the old feelings of anger connected to them,” explains Rachel Fleischman, LCSW, founder of Bliss Counseling. “This gets sticky. People get very attached to their resentments because they are based in the deep sense of being wronged.”
The problem with resentment is that it’s something we hold within ourselves. In that sense, it often ends up impacting us more than it does the offender.
Ahead, we’re covering common reasons why you can’t let go of resentment, how this can impact you over the long term, and effective ways to process and assuage this complicated emotion.
Rachel Fleischman, LCSW
People get very attached to their resentments because they are based in the deep sense of being wronged. — Rachel Fleischman, LCSW
You Feel Like There’s No Closure or Resolution
When a situation feels like it’s been left open-ended, it’s difficult to move forward. It’s human nature to desire a sense of closure before we can let go of any negative feelings. “We may be waiting for the other person to notice or say something,” notes Sarah Baroud, LICSW. She adds, “If I'm feeling resentful, it makes sense that I would want the person I resent to take action to fix or apologize.” A simple acknowledgement of wrongdoing by the other might be enough to allow you to release resentment.
Confronting the Issue Head-On Is Overwhelming
One reason you may experience a lack of resolution is that it feels easier to sit in your resentment than to do the work required to confront the situation and mend the relationship. A pointed finger without any conversation leaves us stagnated and bitter. In this case, Baroud says we often end up gripped by resentment and end up pointing a finger at the other person indefinitely versus taking any helpful steps forward. A pointed finger without any conversation leaves us stagnated and bitter. In the event that you don’t want to continue the relationship, it’s still important to confront the issue within yourself and find inner peace. How to Forgive: 5 Tips for Letting Go and Moving On
There’s an old adage regarding resentment, says Fleischman, that goes something like “holding onto resentment is like drinking rat poison and waiting for the rat to die.” This bitter, lingering feeling often ends up negatively impacting us by causing us to retreat inward, focus on the negative, and sour our relationships.
“Resentment can often push other people away,” warns Dr. Robbins. “If you are someone who is always feeling angry, bitter, and wronged—and you are sharing that with other people—then over time those people are not going to want to be around you.”
Like any difficult emotion, research shows that holding onto resentment can cause stress in the body. A 2018 study that appeared in "Health Psychology" found that adults who held onto anger and hostility over the course of a decade experienced greater cognitive decline than those who were more apt to forgive.
Another study asked participants to think of a conflict in which they didn’t forgive someone while completing a physical test. They did worse compared to their peers who thought of a time when they forgave another person. The grudge holders were also more likely to think a hill looked steeper than the forgiving group, indicating a more pessimistic mindset.
Amy Robbins, PsyD
The goal is never not to feel, but rather to recognize the feeling and try to understand what is at the root of it. — Amy Robbins, PsyD “The goal is never not to feel, but rather to recognize the feeling and try to understand what is at the root of it,” says Dr. Robbins. “Why are you unable to let go of the anger? Why in this certain situation do you feel wronged? And what is the history of that feeling for you? That can begin to give you some insight into the resentment.” Daniel Rinaldi, therapist and life coach, says that a realistic goal is to acknowledge the resentment and work toward processing it in a constructive way. You may not do it perfectly, and resentment may rear its head every once in a while. But striving to let go and find peace will serve you and your relationships.
Here are some ways you can slowly work through resentment and find a greater sense of inner peace.
•Understand the Source: Identifying the reasons you’re holding onto resentment can help you confront and work through those feelings. For example, if it’s a form of self-protection, you might be able to address how to feel vulnerable again and let your guard down more easily. If it’s because you don’t want to “lose,” then it pushes you toward seeing how you can win by letting go.
•Examine Your Expectations: The best way to eliminate resentment is not to set yourself up for it. “If there’s a hint of ‘what’s in it for me,’ chances are you’re headed for some resentment,” Fleischman says. Also consider what, realistically, the other person can do in order for you to let go. Is an apology enough? Why or why not?
•Practice Gratitude: Being grateful sounds easy enough, but it requires work. This might look like examining ways the offender has positively impacted your life versus just holding onto their offense. Practicing gratitude might also look like taking stock of the wonderful things in your life and how they ultimately outshine a negative experience.
The Mental Health Effects of Holding a Grudge
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